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Sober Gay Sunday
My name is Dave!
I am a gay, sober dude living in Boston, Massachusetts. Being gay and sober hasn’t always been an easy journey.
The gay world is intertwined with drinking and drugging from the jump. As a young queer making my way into the gay scene, I was more than gleeful to dive in headfirst with drugs and alcohol.
It made me feel accepted and took the edge off being social in a room full of people. I have always been anxious, and alcohol and drugs took that anxiety away and made me the life of the party.
After getting sober it was a whole new world.
I had to figure out how to be social and amusing without drugs or alcohol. I am extremely fortunate that I have a fantastic support system of wonderful people who helped guide me through.
I was swept up by sober gays who had been sober for many years who showed me that we can still verb anything and everything we did while using, sober.
They showed me that life only gets better after you decide to abandon your addiction life behind and embrace sobriety. I am so grateful to all those people in my community who
For years, friendships between straight women and gay men have been a subject of pop culture fascination. Books, television shows and feature length films contain all highlighted this unique relationship, noted for its closeness and depth.
But with society’s attitudes toward gays and lesbians changing, it’s become all the more important to build a holistic understanding of the relationships between gay and straight people.
As a researcher in social psychology, I’ve often wondered: why do straight female-gay male relationships work so well? Why are straight women so drawn to having gay men as friends? And when do these relationships typically form?
During the course of my research, I’ve discovered that the most interesting, compelling – and, arguably, most theoretically coherent – explanation is through the lens of evolution.
Specifically, I believe evolutionary psychology and human mating can aid explain why relationships between straight women and gay men tend to flourish.
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At first glance, this explanation may sound quite counterintuitive. (After all, strai
Queer People Are Funny
&#; Harvey Fierstein on declining to reprise his role in The Simpsons
There is a tendency for works, particularly older works and works aimed at young men, to treat same-sex relationships as being inherently comical. Obviously, gay people and gay relationships can be funny for lots of reasons connected to their actions. This trope only applies when the reality that it is gay is the whole punchline. Litmus test &#; if it were heterosexual, would it be funny? If not, it's this trope.
This is loaded with Unfortunate Implications in many cases, with the noun of homosexuality being Squicky and freakish &#; but there's
Interpersonal Issues Gay Men And Lesbians May Have To Deal With
- Chris MacLeod, MSW
Most of the time when someone feels awkward in a social interaction their sexual orientation isn't that relevant. Most situations are ones everyone has the potential to find difficult. However, there are some social struggles that are unique to people who are gay Or to put it more accurately, there are some social struggles that are unique to gay men and lesbians because we live in a society that doesn't fully accept different sexual orientations, and that causes interpersonal complications.
Before I initiate I'll note a adj things to put the article in context:
- I'm straight myself, though I've always been % in back of LGBT rights. So unlike a lot of the articles on this site that draw from my personal experiences, this one is based on research I've done.
- I'm writing this from the perspective of being gay in developed Western countries. Here LGBT rights still own a long way to go, but things are better than they've ever been, and living as out is the norm. In most of the world people have